S: Is a overwhelming lack of Social Graces!

I have never been very good at relationships. I either fall for the wrong guy or some guy who is completely wrong for me decides I'm the love of his life. The later never ends well and then you become the person who used them and of course has problems galore. Recently I have begun to realized the extent of how much we do not communicate, and how much it can scar our souls. At first I thought I was alone in this epiphany until I started to share my most recent experience with others, only to find that this is an epidemic of which the portions seem out of control. Men think women are gold diggers because they take them out to dinner or on a date, when the girl who is completely straight forward about her feelings has them dismissed. When the guy assumes that his generous offer of food and company demands payment, the girl is suppose to quiver with joyous delight even though there was never any negotiation. Great if there's chemistry, for it becomes a mutual win, win. However, when did going to lunch or dinner with someone, when they were the one that wanted your company, mean sex? Did I miss this lesson of life? But it seems I am not the only one that's missed it, my best friend who is extremely beautiful has it happen to her all the time. She becomes wounded because the communication that she so clearly set into motion before the indebted meal was procured, ends up having unwanted advances from someone who never will understand english or more importantly choose not to hear. And it never happens the first time they ask you out, it sneaks up on you as they say and do things that have you trusting them. They start to become your friend which is what you offered and then without notice, pounce. Girls are not cars, we do not go from 0-60 in 7.7 seconds. When you go to kiss us and it is like the bumper car ride, hard and tight lipped, we think it was just a hit and run and was a motion better left for an amusement ride. If you have not held our hand, put your arm around us when we are cold or kiss us like you mean it, we think you are gay, or hung up on someone else, or just not that into us. It never dawns on us that though you tell us" how beautiful we are", or shake like a dog almost peeing yourself in the process that you are working up the courage for that one precious act. It becomes words that have no meaning. So when the demand for payment due is decreed, the shock and girl in head light effect that occurs has us deep in an overwhelming sadness later. When on the set of Kings I made friends with three women who also had the same experiences though my most recent had them all amazed with the apparent lack of social graces. Please do not think this strange lack of understanding is strictly geared to the straight world. It is not. I just had a women I know go through this with a childhood friend, a women and a male friend of mine who is also gay. Is something in the air that is turning people rabid? and please can somebody find a cure! There is a happy ending to this. There are some people who are exactly what they seem. Understand that friend means friend and are willing to give you time if the chemistry isn't immediately there. There are men upon meeting you who do all those motions that make you know that lightening has just struck and throw caution to the wind. I recently watched that happen and it is a thrilling F.A.C.T. to know it still exists.